TWO DAYS AFTER VALENTINE, IS LOVE A SCAM?
It’s February 16th 2026, and I’m here to congratulate my fellow single Pringles for surviving Valentine’s Day! Hip, Hip, Hip, Hurray!
Two days after, and you are still standing strong amidst the oohs and ahhs! No flowers, no gifts, just home on a rainy day, scrolling aimlessly through Instagram and wondering, ‘God when’?!
But I would like to ask, do you really believe love is a scam? Or you believe in your happily ever after finding you soon?
For what it’s worth, love is not a scam if you find the right person to do life with. The right person in terms of one who understands your love language, one whose love is sacrificial and not selfish, one who has the fear of God in them and is submitted to authority (parents and people they respect) and one who constantly nurtures the relationship like a seed that needs water, air and the right temperature to sprout.
Love is not a scam because the originator of love; God, had a purpose for putting man and woman together. Not just for procreation, but for companionship, mutual support, to curb fornication and to grow in the knowledge of God and impact society.
Let’s look at the other side.
People believe that love is a scam because many in this generation are entering relationships with ill intentions and motives that later get exposed.
Love is also seen as a scam when people who once cherished their partners, after 5, 10, 20, 30 or 40 years, fall out of love with their partners and seek their independence.
While these assertions may have some level of truth to it, it cannot be generalized and taken as the basis for the statement: love is a scam.
If you subscribe to the belief that love is a scam, you’ve probably not healed the version of you that fell prey to the scammer. The fact that someone scammed you doesn’t make love a scam.
Picture this. You have a car. It helps you to commute to and fro, to work, to church, and to grocery shopping. You see others on the road driving cars that are in bad shape. Little to no maintenance, no value for what they have. They don’t even have a mechanic or an auto technician to regularly check for faulty parts. They don’t even service it once in a while. But just because others are mishandling their cars doesn’t mean having a car is useless. Just because others downplay the value of a car doesn’t mean a car has no value.
Love is not a scam. This generation is just full of scammers. In both male and female, you will find people who will take your love for granted, downplay your value, forget to nurture the love that they initiated, fail to contact counsellors or heed the advice of authority concerning dispute resolution, put their interests first instead of weighing their decisions and the bearing it has on their love relationship, and people who basically, lack the fear of God.
But what you hate, you can’t attract. What you dishonour cannot be honoured by God. Don’t join the bandwagon who say love is a scam. Heal the version of you that fell prey to scammers. Open your heart to receiving a beautiful love story.
Celebrate those who got it right in the love department. There are good love stories to emulate. Learn a thing or two from their partnership. And don’t bleed on people who did not hurt you.
You may also want to guard your heart diligently for the right person. True love will find you.
Remember, ‘single’ is just an adjective to describe someone who is not involved in a romantic relationship. Not involved does not mean it will never happen. If you desire it, it will.
So don’t survive Valentine’s Day, your delivery man/ woman is not late! They are on the way! Even if it’s taking long, it will happen at the right time.
What are your thoughts? Share them with me.
